Guys, if you don't like this, tough - look away now.
In another dating article on this site
you will find a general set of rules than men should follow when dating.
In the same way women have some general rules that they should content
with when entering the dating jungle. Now I know everyone is different
so don't take things too seriously here. There has been some controversy
over some literature published recently in the USA that sets out in
detail the rules a woman should follow to get her guy (or woman).
Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider's 1995 bestseller
"The Rules," explains how women should play hard if they
want to get their guy. I can understand why
some groups would be hostile but the fact is when we grow up there
are a predefined set of dating rules. All that happens is that we
forget most of them after the age of 21 and then find we need to relearn
them.
I wish there weren't any general rules
and we just got on with it but courtship is a ritual; there are things
that we make happen that excite stimulate, create interest, confound
etc. Dating is a long test of compatibility. Are we perfectly matched?
If we just threw ourselves together then the chances of long term
happiness may be reduced. And yet previous generations managed to
succeed on a far less complex courtship criteria list. Many arranged
marriages work too interestingly.
In every society there are a predefined
set of social rules we follow, from the way and timing of eating to
the way we behave in public. The issue here is that when women date
there are things that can help them be more successful. If we accept
that dating is a game then there are rules to that game and winners
and losers. If you know the rules in advance it gives you a head start.
If men know the rules by which you are playing you may change the
rules to suit the situation to keep the man guessing. Men love a challenge
so feel free to adapt rule and add them as you feel inclined.
You can separate rules out into two
parts, dating and online dating. Both areas have distinct rules that
a woman should follow for dating success.
General
Dating Rules
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Always look great, whatever your
income. Gorgeous hair and some lipstick and wearing rags will
still turn his head. You have the advantage, you are the woman.
Look your best as you could meet a potential Mr. Right anywhere
at any time.
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Never reveal information you don't
have to. An enigmatic woman drives men wild.
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Keep dates brief but your men interested.
Less is always more.
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Try and stay in shape and involve
some fitness regime at a gym. However much you hate it, your Mr.
Right loves your body as much as your mind.
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Let your man pay. If he is interested,
he is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely
in a cab.
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Ensure you receive flowers, if
he doesn't know what a florist is, dump him.
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Never ever sleep with a guy until
he has fallen for you. Sex early in your dating game plan will
ruin everything.
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Always keep a guy waiting and never
turn up early. It is a lady's perogative.
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Never be available when he wants
you to be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always
let him leave a message or two first before replying.
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If he is available Tuesday, you
are available Thursday.
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Weekend shopping trips with girlfriends
are sacred and not available for dates.
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Keep your man standing on quicksand
by shifting landmarks and goalposts constantly.
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Ensure you are a good kisser. Men
will walk away if you cannot kiss. Practise on a mirror
if you have to.
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Never ever talk about previous
boyfriends and particularly their prowess in the bedroom. The
number of ex boyfriends is your business only.
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Never pre suppose anything about
your date until you choose to know him better. You cannot always
tell by looking
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If any man shows the slightest
signs of possessiveness or insecurity run like the wind. Life
is too short for boys.
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If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace
dump him
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Never talk too much about your
father and how your date measures up in comparison.
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Never ever come across as too available
or too desperate, he will run a mile. He is the one doing the
chasing remember.
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If the guy in the corner is gorgeous
go and get him and create the need in him for you. Never wait
for men to come to you because you may watch him leave with someone
else.
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You may well have all the bodily
functions of a man, just try not to demonstrate them early on.
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If you are wanting a child, don't
mention it on the first few dates.
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Never ever criticize his mother
unless you want to remain single.
Online
Dating Rules
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Always let them come to you, don't
chase via email
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Block anyone who annoys you instantly
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Place the best & most vampish
photo up you can find
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Don't reply to instant messages
with clever opening lines
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Remain aloof and let yourself be
chased
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Always reply to emails at least
3 days after receipt
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Never provide you true email or
phone details to the man
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Always date safely and protect
yourself at every turn
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Make sure your login name is stunning
and sexy as well as enigmatic
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Do not login for hours on end.
Short, rapid visits are best
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Do not assume the man you are talking
to is destitute or sad
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Never ever reply to emails at weekends,
wait until a weekday
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Never state how good your sexual
performance is in your profile
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If you don't want to date married
men spell it out in your profile
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A man who doesn't reply to your
email within 3 days should be ignored
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Make sure your humor levels come
across in text
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Do not chat to hundreds of men
at once, the delay in replying is a dead giveaway and your Mr.
Right will be off.
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Don't even think about misrepresenting
your size or description. They will find out.
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Come across as cool and sophisticated
for best results
Always remember ladies that you are
a sexy desirable woman and the world is your oyster. Always let men
do the chasing and always let yourself be the chooser. Always stay
safe and never risk yourself for the sake of attending a date. Always
use a safe dating website like LoveBrowser.com
